For children, separation and divorce can be an especially
sad, stressful, and confusing time. But there are ways to help your kids cope
with the upheaval of a breakup.
Helping your child through a divorce
A separation or divorce is a highly stressful and emotional
experience for everyone involved, but children often feel that their whole
world has turned upside down. At any age, it can be traumatic to witness the
dissolution of your parents’ marriage and the breakup of the family. Kids may
feel shocked, uncertain, or angry. Some may even feel guilty, blaming
themselves for the problems at home. Divorce is never a seamless process and,
inevitably, such a transitional time doesn’t happen without some measure of
grief and hardship. But you can dramatically reduce your children’s pain by
making their well-being your top priority.
Your patience, reassurance, and listening ear can minimize
tension as your children learn to cope with unfamiliar circumstances. By
providing routines your kids can rely on, you remind them that they can count
on you for stability, structure, and care. And by maintaining a working
relationship with your ex, you can help your kids avoid the stress and anguish
that comes with watching parents in conflict. With your support, your kids can
not only successfully navigate this unsettling time, but even emerge from it
feeling loved, confident, and strong—and even with a closer bond to both
parents.
For more help and insight regarding your children and divorce check out this HelpGuide
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